Popular Bad Habit #1: Worrying

Another month, another blog post. I was actually worried if I was going to get this entry out in time; especially with the spiritual matters I had encountered this month. But then I realized, the month’s topic of choice happened to be worry. Life works out that way sometimes.

So why am I touching upon worry on this blog? Passion Fruition is a blog about bettering oneself and moving forward on your path in life. And in order to do that successfully, we need to really face and evaluate bad habits. One of those bad habits is worrying.

Believe it or not, worrying is essentially a type of fear. While you might not be giving a bloodcurdling scream over an issue, you are worrying about something that you fear will come into your life. For example, let’s take my worry dilemma with writing this post before the end of the month. Was I scared of writing? Of course not. My worry, and in essence my fear, was in not completing the entry in time. My worry-fear, was failing my self-imposed deadline.

Now how do you overcome this? Just like if it was a fear, the best way to handle worry is to face it. Acknowledge that you are worried, and also in fear, of a possible outcome or situation you are facing. Usually this means making mental peace with the worst case scenario.

Going back to my worry-fear, I thought about what it would really entail if I did not get this blog entry out to you readers in time. Would really a few days matter? In the long run, no it wouldn’t. I know I would write a blog entry eventually. But it is letting myself down that is what I fear.

Establishing what you are really worried about makes a whole world of difference. It will either help you remove your worry or help motivate you to make a difference or change so there will be no need to worry!

So don’t worry. Be happy.

Moral: Face your worries like you would your fears, and make peace with them.

Excuses, Excuses…

Our society is prone to use excuses in excess.

That above statement may seem very jaded or presumptuous, but I am guilty of doing this as well. And actually, this blog is a prime example of my own discretions on this topic.

When I decided to create Passion Fruition, my goal was to create a blog where I could post not only motivational pieces from experiences I have encountered in life for whomever was lucky (or unlucky) to stumble across my small piece of cyberspace, but as a dedication to myself to take things I was passionate about and bring them into fruition (I see what you did there). I am a repeat offender of procrastination and having a lot of ideas and dreams on things I would want to do, but never having the will or focus to make them a reality.

So what started as a blog, almost became an unrealized dream as this has been sitting in cyberspace, untouched, for four whole months. And why? Well, here is where the excuses came in.

Beforehand, I had asked people on my Facebook page if they were interested in my ramblings and viewpoint on life and I had such a nice response on the topic that I went ahead and purchased the domain name, bought an expensive WordPress template, had ideas for logos and designs for how “spiffy” my blog was going to look. I had daydreams of me sitting with a computer, drinking a hot coffee, typing my theoretical findings for the day on my popular hit blog, adorned with hipster glasses and all.

This was back in January.

I do love to write with a cup of coffee as my companion...

I do love to write with a cup of coffee as my companion…

Being a web developer, I didn’t want the default template, I wanted to make my own. But then I was too tired and busy from my full-time job. Then I didn’t have the time to draw the logo I wanted. I couldn’t write my blog right now, I didn’t have my hot coffee! What about scheduling? When am I going to have time to upkeep a blog? I’m too busy helping other companies with their social media and search engine optimization to worry about mine. Now its been a quite a long time since I posted on Facebook about wanting to create a blog. Is anyone even still out there?

As the excuses piled up more and more in my conscious mind, the idea of a motivational, spiritual blog fell back into my subconscious and this just sat… and sat… and sat…

The empty blog did make friends with a few robot crawlers though… not sure if that’s good or not.

So then we come to today where I was checking all my social feeds and I happened across an article that talked about a man’s test to see how he could handle not using the internet for a whole year. Working in the IT field as my everyday profession, I was very intrigued on how it all worked out and had anticipated it being a glamorous, life-changing experience. I mean, it is obviously the internet’s and technology’s fault we are so distracted and busy, right?


To my surprise, and probably to the surprise of anyone else who read the well-written post, the author found it not so life-changing and glamorous as he had originally expected. Instead, he found himself sitting with his own flaws. In other words, he found out that his not reaching out to his friends, or having the time to work on his projects had nothing to do with the internet. It had to do with him.

After reading this article, I started to really think about it deeply and apply it to my own life in regard to anything I didn’t start, create or do. I always felt it was do to the excuse; like poor time management, no one would be interested now, the website is not done just right and numerous others. I found that it wasn’t the excuses that stopped the idea to come to fruition. It was me.

I was so motivated by this discovery, I finally remembered this little piece of the internet that I had put aside as my own project before excuses came into play. And with that, you now read the post before you.

So why am I writing about this? Why am I just posting this up? Well, simply put, I’m done with making excuses. If people read this article and take something away from it, fantastic. If not, oh well. The main thing is, I got something DONE and did not let an excuse stop me. Is the way the blog design is right now to my standard taste? No. Is this going to be the form all my blog entries will be? Probably not. But all those things will come together, come to fruition, in time. Rather than stopping myself before I even began, I will sit back with the rest of the audience and see how things develop. That’s how dreams become reality. That’s how we grow as human beings.

And that, in itself, is one of the ways that life stays interesting.

Moral: Live life with no excuses.