The Power of Surrender

Wow, I’m actually alive? And still doing this blog thing? Yep, but I had to learn a year-long lesson regarding surrender. Let me share what I’ve figured out.

Sue Richards:

Sue Richards:

As mentioned in my very first blog post on here, “Excuses, Excuses…” (shameless plug), I had followed the easy route most of us take in making excuses for not achieving what I want. Once I realized what I was doing, I went forward with the notion to not make any excuses (as much as possible anyway… I’m still human) and to just go forward and do what I want to do. One of those things was to maintain a blog that allowed me to write what I want, mostly about spiritual and motivational “stuff”, to share what I’ve been learning.

And so I did. I worked on the blog pretty diligently until 2014 came. Then the proverbial poop hit the fan. The next lesson came whether I knew if I was ready for it or not.

Surrender. This was lesson two.

During 2014, a lot of events happened; some being positive (becoming a godmother was an honor), some neutral (OMG I’m thirty now) and some not good at all (sadly lost a few close friends to cancer). It seemed like whenever I was ready to write a post on here, life got in the way and directed my attention elsewhere. I started to beat myself up, concerned that I was just making up excuses in my head, placing blame on these other events, rather than doing what I felt I should be doing.

But life is funny that way. I had to learn to surrender and just “go with the flow” for once.

All these things I felt or thought or fretted over were all my own ego. When things are meant to happen, they will happen. That includes having the time to be able to write on here to whomever loves reading this stuff (hello!) as well as any tasks and events that come into your life. No matter how much planning or prepping you do, life will somehow throw you a curve ball and surrender will be your friend.

So what now? Well, things have finally calmed down on my end of things. I’ve started a new job, focusing back on my physical health, and slowly getting better with prioritizing my time which should all allow me to get back on track… life willing.

Moral: Do not forget to surrender to the flow of life.

Popular Bad Habit #1: Worrying

Another month, another blog post. I was actually worried if I was going to get this entry out in time; especially with the spiritual matters I had encountered this month. But then I realized, the month’s topic of choice happened to be worry. Life works out that way sometimes.

So why am I touching upon worry on this blog? Passion Fruition is a blog about bettering oneself and moving forward on your path in life. And in order to do that successfully, we need to really face and evaluate bad habits. One of those bad habits is worrying.

Believe it or not, worrying is essentially a type of fear. While you might not be giving a bloodcurdling scream over an issue, you are worrying about something that you fear will come into your life. For example, let’s take my worry dilemma with writing this post before the end of the month. Was I scared of writing? Of course not. My worry, and in essence my fear, was in not completing the entry in time. My worry-fear, was failing my self-imposed deadline.

Now how do you overcome this? Just like if it was a fear, the best way to handle worry is to face it. Acknowledge that you are worried, and also in fear, of a possible outcome or situation you are facing. Usually this means making mental peace with the worst case scenario.

Going back to my worry-fear, I thought about what it would really entail if I did not get this blog entry out to you readers in time. Would really a few days matter? In the long run, no it wouldn’t. I know I would write a blog entry eventually. But it is letting myself down that is what I fear.

Establishing what you are really worried about makes a whole world of difference. It will either help you remove your worry or help motivate you to make a difference or change so there will be no need to worry!

So don’t worry. Be happy.

Moral: Face your worries like you would your fears, and make peace with them.

Finding the Warrior Within

And so we enter into another month in 2014. So far, I am keeping up with my resolution of posting at least one blog entry a month. So for this month, I’ve decided to dive into the warrior way.

You are going to talk about warriors when we are on the holiday known more for love? Really?

Yes, really.

But I’m not talking about warriors in the sense of those who are grunting, muscle-bound, shield-wielding individuals. The truth of the matter is that walking the warrior path requires love and respect of yourself. Finding this love and respect for yourself is harder for some, especially since we don’t want to seem selfish or egotistical.

There’s that ego again.

So how does one find the warrior within? How do we go from putting ourselves on the side to making us the central figure? Simple; love and respect yourself.

It is always easier to say than to do.

On Valentine’s Day, while we are thinking about family, friends, significant others and anyone we truly respect and care for in our lives, take a moment to honor thyself. Take the time to listen to yourself, spoil yourself, splurge a little, and really view yourself as the awesome person you really are.

You see, with energies and spirits, it is more of an emotional/mental game than most people realize. If you are an individual who is known to put others before yourself, listen to yourself last, and purposefully keep your self image very low, not only may you be suffering from the Lightworker Syndrome (shameless plug) but you are setting yourself up for bad things to happen to you. It makes it so you view the world more as a victim, rather than as a warrior.

Many times when I have come to find people either dealing with “bad luck” or are scared of entities parading through their house or even dealing with physical ailments that their physician can’t figure out what logically is going on, I commonly find individuals who refuse to fight for themselves. They have no problem fighting for their friends, children, spouses, and other family members… but not themselves. Whatever you put out into the universe is how the universe will respond to you. “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” It is all about reflecting your own mental perceptions into the world around you. Once you go from a victim mindset to a warrior mindset, you will feel you can handle whatever trials and tribulations come your way, and truly believe it. And guess what? You will.

You are awesome!

You are awesome!

So on today, of all days, don’t forget to celebrate yourself. You have earned it and your friends, family and the universe will thank you.

Moral: To find the warrior within, fight for yourself by loving the wonderful person you really are.

The Power of the Kitchen

Thanksgiving; the holiday that not only we give thanks to what we have and are blessed with, but the day we test our stomachs to see how much turkey and other goodies we can consume. While everyone knows the kitchen is crucial for these extravagant dinners to come to fruition (I see what you did there), what a lot of people do not realize is the spiritual significance of the kitchen itself.

For many years, a lot of teas, ointments, spells, incenses, oils, and various other spiritual and healing tools were cooked in a kitchen. And this is still carried on to this day. Don’t believe me? Let me know how that epiphany hits you when you’re making chicken soup for a nasty cold.

I think there is a curse in that pie...

I think there is a curse in that pie…

Many people can tell when there is “love” that is put into a dish, and know how certain foods can help them battle certain illnesses and ailments. Believe it or not, that is our energy and the spirit of the food mixing together for a desired effect. Many pagans, wiccans and other spiritual healers had figured out this fact eons ago, and still use it to help bring change to themselves and their world.

So for all you kitchen witches out there, and even those who just consider themselves to be mad culinary scientists, remember the power that a kitchen has. It has the power to heal, and also bring love and togetherness in a household. Enjoy the joy the Thanksgiving dishes bring, or any dishes from the kitchen for that matter, and give thanks to the season.

Moral: Happy Thanksgiving!

Stuck Between Two Worlds

Being spiritually open is not easy. Granted, it has become more socially accepted over the more current years, however there is still a balance the person needs to maintain at all times. And that becomes especially important as we approach the holidays, where spirits are more active and easier to interact with.

When I first started down my own spiritual path, I felt very alone in this area of things. I was not sure how to make heads or tails of what I was experiencing. Was I just imagining things? Maybe it was just coincidence. Am I overthinking things? Am I overthinking about overthinking? Whoa, maybe had too much chocolate candy before going to bed.

Who am I kidding? That can't be it...

Who am I kidding? That can’t be it…

What I did not know back then is that confusion is very much a part of the spiritual. Unlike things in our physical realm, the “rules” we are taught in school and see in our every day life do not always apply. Things simply do not operate the same way. And, more often than not, we will not fully understand those incidents when spirit does show up.

And that is okay.

Given how far technology has advanced and how much science is growing, the general hope that we will be able to fully understand the paranormal has been going on for eons. And while we feel we are getting closer, we still expect that we should understand more than we do. 2+2 = 4, the sky is blue, and gravity keeps us all on the spinning world. We can logically explain and deduce those things, but we can’t explain the ghost in the corner.

And that is okay.

For anyone who is spiritually open, our human mind wants to try and rationalize what we are seeing or experiencing. We want to be able to deduce and give a logical explanation. And when we cannot, that is when fear comes into play. Instead of acknowledging that we just simply do not understand, we take that incident as something to be feared.

This is where balance for the sensitive is crucially important. We cannot run off to the hills screaming that the demons are coming like a spooky rendition of Paul Revere, and we cannot also deem ourselves going insane because it cannot logically happen in our world. It is not our job to explain. It is our job to experience.

Hallmark was right!

Hallmark was right!

Yes, all those greeting cards and spiritual pictures on Facebook did have something truthful in them. Life is about the experiences we encounter. For some people, those experiences are more of the “normal” occurrences: moving into a new home, getting a new job, eating more chocolate candy. But for the spiritually open individual, the unexplainable occurrences are also sprinkled into our life experience. And, as you know… that is okay.

The key is acknowledging that we do not need to understand and to let the experience unfold before us. It may not make sense now, or in three months, or even ten years from now, but when we are ready for it, we will understand the experience. So if you have a deceased relative visit you this holiday season, rather than try to explain why they are there, what they want, who exactly is, etc., experience the sensation of their presence and the joy of them spending the time with you during the holidays. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll see that being stuck between two worlds is not so bad.

Moral: Rather than looking for an explanation, look for the joy in the experience.

The Lightworker Syndrome

The Lightworker Syndrome (noun): When a practicing lightworker stretches himself or herself beyond their own limits in order to help another person.

What in the world am I talking about?

One thing I have noticed among many lightworkers is that we tend to overdo a lot of things, mainly helping others. Lightworkers obviously want to help our fellow man, but we are guilty of not helping ourselves. We worry that we are being selfish and we are eager to help bring more light to the world.

While this is a very noble idea, it is also a bit egotistical in a way. And here come the torches and pitchforks…

Before I get crucified for that statement, let me explain. Every single one of us has a path to walk on. In the grand scheme of things, each path is very important to one single person: our own self. Even though there is always reasoning that the Divine has in putting certain road blocks, obstacles, T intersections and various other twists and turns, it is always left to us as human beings to decide how react, respond and move forward. Why? Because we have free will. No one is forcing us to feel bad for certain situations. It is how we are reacting to a situation we are facing.

Now we come to lightworkers. I, personally, am not a fan of the term (it is very one-sided, and that is another blog entry for another time), but each lightworker has their own path. But one “bump in the road” that I’ve come to notice that many lightworkers have to face and come to terms with is boundaries.

And yes, I’m guilty of this too. So before we start throwing busses, let me share how I’ve come to terms with this lesson in life.

Visualize for a moment you are going to see a surgeon for a procedure. Before your surgery, you meet the head surgeon managing your surgery. When the surgeon comes in, you notice that their nose is running, eyes are bloodshot, numerous dark circles around their eyes and they’re coughing every now and again. Now would you want them performing a surgery on you? Of course not.

This is the same with lightworkers. Most lightworkers want to heal other people in order to bring more light (hence the term) into the lives of the people they’re helping. However, just like with the surgeon analogy, many forget to take care of themselves. The surgeon and the lightworker may be coming to their patient with the best of intentions, but the personal boundaries of the surgeon and lightworker have now been ignored.

And now we are drained and are the ones in need of healing.

Then you become drained and are the one in need of healing.

So, how do you overcome the lightworker syndrome? Simple. Take care of yourself.

Make sure after doing a lightworking session on an individual that you take time to clear yourself and ground yourself. Give yourself time to work on your own healing and spiritual growth. Don’t forget, you’re walking your own path too and you have many lessons and healings to go through. Get back to basics and listen to your intuition. If your body or your spiritual teachers are saying this person cannot get help from you right now, listen. It doesn’t reflect on your abilities or how you are as a person. You have a right to the person you’re helping, as well as yourself, to respect the divine timing, and do spiritual work at 100% efficiency.

If you find yourself like the surgeon in the example above, for goodness sake, call off from work! Take time to heal. RESPECT yourself.

You will be amazed on how much more energy and healing you can bring forward if you work within the divine timing and your own boundaries. Just like an employee coming back from a vacation, you will feel refreshed and ready to do what needs to be done. Don’t challenge your boundaries, respect them. Once making peace with them, then you will notice that they will begin to change as you begin to change. Enjoy, respect and dance within the flow.

Moral: RESPECT your boundaries. LISTEN to yourself. And REMEMBER to continue walking your path.

Dealing with Negativity

One of the things I’ve been noticing people speak of a lot on both the internet and in person is the effect of negativity.

It seems that we have almost become obsessed in dealing with negative people and putting ourselves in negative situations. We probably can all agree that no one really enjoys being with negative people or dealing with negative situations. No one really goes looking for these confrontations and conflicts.

Or do we?

Everything happens for a reason.

Let me put it this way, everyone has heard this quote in one form or another, either through a picture online or someone uttering it to someone else, etc. A lot of people use this quote for positive things, like two people meeting each other through a third party for example. However, it is rarely thought of when something bad is going on.

Most people do not even want to think about there being a possible reason for negativity being in their lives. They just want it gone, removed, completely, quickly. But what is not realized is that unless the lesson has been learned, that negativity cannot be fully removed. Even if you happen to get a “break” from it, that negativity will show up again either through another person or another situation.

What we should do is truly take a look at our negativity and make peace with it. Realize that this situation or person is before us for a reason, and it is how we deal with it that helps define us as a person. We can either throw more negativity at it by complaining about the situation and wallow in it, or turn the situation into a positive, become a stronger and wiser person and truly rise above it.

So, what is the reason for your negativity?

It could be to show you certain traits that you do not want in your life. It could be to acknowledge your own will and power within. It could be to change your point of view. It could be to get you closer to your faith. It could be a lot of things, but in the end, the task of learning and getting anything out of it relies on you.

I invite anyone who reads this article to take a hard look at your negative situations instead of turning a blind eye to it. Accept it for truly what it is, and acknowledge the lesson being brought to you. And, most of all, be thankful for the lesson and the given platform to change yourself. Because, after all, we are always learning and growing throughout life. It is when we stay stagnant and wallow in the darkness, that negativity has its way with us.

Moral: Embrace your negativity, turn it into a positive, and continue along your life’s path.