Dealing with Negativity

One of the things I’ve been noticing people speak of a lot on both the internet and in person is the effect of negativity.

It seems that we have almost become obsessed in dealing with negative people and putting ourselves in negative situations. We probably can all agree that no one really enjoys being with negative people or dealing with negative situations. No one really goes looking for these confrontations and conflicts.

Or do we?

Everything happens for a reason.

Let me put it this way, everyone has heard this quote in one form or another, either through a picture online or someone uttering it to someone else, etc. A lot of people use this quote for positive things, like two people meeting each other through a third party for example. However, it is rarely thought of when something bad is going on.

Most people do not even want to think about there being a possible reason for negativity being in their lives. They just want it gone, removed, completely, quickly. But what is not realized is that unless the lesson has been learned, that negativity cannot be fully removed. Even if you happen to get a “break” from it, that negativity will show up again either through another person or another situation.

What we should do is truly take a look at our negativity and make peace with it. Realize that this situation or person is before us for a reason, and it is how we deal with it that helps define us as a person. We can either throw more negativity at it by complaining about the situation and wallow in it, or turn the situation into a positive, become a stronger and wiser person and truly rise above it.

So, what is the reason for your negativity?

It could be to show you certain traits that you do not want in your life. It could be to acknowledge your own will and power within. It could be to change your point of view. It could be to get you closer to your faith. It could be a lot of things, but in the end, the task of learning and getting anything out of it relies on you.

I invite anyone who reads this article to take a hard look at your negative situations instead of turning a blind eye to it. Accept it for truly what it is, and acknowledge the lesson being brought to you. And, most of all, be thankful for the lesson and the given platform to change yourself. Because, after all, we are always learning and growing throughout life. It is when we stay stagnant and wallow in the darkness, that negativity has its way with us.

Moral: Embrace your negativity, turn it into a positive, and continue along your life’s path.

Excuses, Excuses…

Our society is prone to use excuses in excess.

That above statement may seem very jaded or presumptuous, but I am guilty of doing this as well. And actually, this blog is a prime example of my own discretions on this topic.

When I decided to create Passion Fruition, my goal was to create a blog where I could post not only motivational pieces from experiences I have encountered in life for whomever was lucky (or unlucky) to stumble across my small piece of cyberspace, but as a dedication to myself to take things I was passionate about and bring them into fruition (I see what you did there). I am a repeat offender of procrastination and having a lot of ideas and dreams on things I would want to do, but never having the will or focus to make them a reality.

So what started as a blog, almost became an unrealized dream as this has been sitting in cyberspace, untouched, for four whole months. And why? Well, here is where the excuses came in.

Beforehand, I had asked people on my Facebook page if they were interested in my ramblings and viewpoint on life and I had such a nice response on the topic that I went ahead and purchased the domain name, bought an expensive WordPress template, had ideas for logos and designs for how “spiffy” my blog was going to look. I had daydreams of me sitting with a computer, drinking a hot coffee, typing my theoretical findings for the day on my popular hit blog, adorned with hipster glasses and all.

This was back in January.

I do love to write with a cup of coffee as my companion...

I do love to write with a cup of coffee as my companion…

Being a web developer, I didn’t want the default template, I wanted to make my own. But then I was too tired and busy from my full-time job. Then I didn’t have the time to draw the logo I wanted. I couldn’t write my blog right now, I didn’t have my hot coffee! What about scheduling? When am I going to have time to upkeep a blog? I’m too busy helping other companies with their social media and search engine optimization to worry about mine. Now its been a quite a long time since I posted on Facebook about wanting to create a blog. Is anyone even still out there?

As the excuses piled up more and more in my conscious mind, the idea of a motivational, spiritual blog fell back into my subconscious and this just sat… and sat… and sat…

The empty blog did make friends with a few robot crawlers though… not sure if that’s good or not.

So then we come to today where I was checking all my social feeds and I happened across an article that talked about a man’s test to see how he could handle not using the internet for a whole year. Working in the IT field as my everyday profession, I was very intrigued on how it all worked out and had anticipated it being a glamorous, life-changing experience. I mean, it is obviously the internet’s and technology’s fault we are so distracted and busy, right?


To my surprise, and probably to the surprise of anyone else who read the well-written post, the author found it not so life-changing and glamorous as he had originally expected. Instead, he found himself sitting with his own flaws. In other words, he found out that his not reaching out to his friends, or having the time to work on his projects had nothing to do with the internet. It had to do with him.

After reading this article, I started to really think about it deeply and apply it to my own life in regard to anything I didn’t start, create or do. I always felt it was do to the excuse; like poor time management, no one would be interested now, the website is not done just right and numerous others. I found that it wasn’t the excuses that stopped the idea to come to fruition. It was me.

I was so motivated by this discovery, I finally remembered this little piece of the internet that I had put aside as my own project before excuses came into play. And with that, you now read the post before you.

So why am I writing about this? Why am I just posting this up? Well, simply put, I’m done with making excuses. If people read this article and take something away from it, fantastic. If not, oh well. The main thing is, I got something DONE and did not let an excuse stop me. Is the way the blog design is right now to my standard taste? No. Is this going to be the form all my blog entries will be? Probably not. But all those things will come together, come to fruition, in time. Rather than stopping myself before I even began, I will sit back with the rest of the audience and see how things develop. That’s how dreams become reality. That’s how we grow as human beings.

And that, in itself, is one of the ways that life stays interesting.

Moral: Live life with no excuses.